Retaking Scabello et al. (in prelo), they would be our proper attitudes (and difficulties) front to the experience of the proper sexuality that, incorporated to a myth series, preconceptions, doubts, omissions and constaints, and reflected even though in the unpreparedness (also of the specialized professionals) when approaching or to deal with this thematic one. Ahead of its proper difficulties in this sphere, professionals and parents would be, many times, to to think that they are not capable or apt to carry through pertinent a sexual orientation, to build what we call ' ' the orientation of silncio' '. The sexuality of people with deficiency, until good little time, was treated with the politics to ' ' avis struthio' ' , term originally thought by AMARAL (1994), in aluso to the ostrich: if I do not see, I do not exist e, therefore, we do not go to say on this E, we understand that, such type of ' ' orientao' ' it can be in fact a species of moral violence. It is interesting to observe as parents and excessively educational agents present the same referring difficulties to the convivncia and the education of aspects of the sexuality of its deficient ones, therefore still she meets in some families and professionals the idea, errnea, of that the sexuality of the people with deficiency is intrinsically problematic, when not pathological (however exibicionista and desregrada, however sexually infantile, beyond inapropriada, when the sexual manifestations occur in way and, in place, different of the habitual ones) and above all a great unpreparedness prevails ahead of its manifestation in the quotidiano (FRANCE RIBEIRO, 1995; GLAT; FREITAS, 1996). Thus, the distrusts, the unpreparedness of the professionals who deal with this population and the difficulties in the treatment of the sexuality of its children and pupils are express for the parents by means of silence, of the repression of its same manifestation and of the infantilizao of the behavior of the adolescents and adults acometidos for the deficiency. (Similarly see: Robert A. Iger ).
Do not try all the same to all do not like: those who have character, not like the spineless. Boneless, naobort tend to stay close to people who have character. Godfellas addresses the importance of the matter here. Often we are looking for a compromise, when not to do follows. To many things we turn a blind eye for fear of causing conflict. Often we show cowardice, wrapping it in a wrapper of politeness. Ultimately, we do not notice when they became hypocrites. But deep in his soul piling up envy, pain, and resentment. Soft and quiet people are just outside.
In fact – they are people "buried" inside yourself emotions. Sometimes these emotions splash out. It was then shown all the aggression of "quiet" character. Such people should beware. Some people are afraid to show character, expressing their own, distinct from the others point of view.
In their hearts they believe that would be rejected by society. This view is erroneous. It is foolish to play courtesy, stab in the back. The ability to openly defend their point of view, ultimately be estimated by smart people. Should I fight with your enemies? The sages say: "… having no enemies, worthy of pity." It is difficult in our difficult times to live a loner with no friends. A friend always ready to come to your rescue. But is it really good friends? Each other are different. Few real friends. Look critically at your friends and you will see that most of your friends – do not friends.
But ordinary people have great amount of information, more subtle material objects. When the true ego is sent into the world of the subconscious, in the astral world, the state with a large amount of information will have on it more shocking impact. The more information, the stronger the shock. Ordinary person faints or gets shock after the death of the sheer volume of information. Basically, this is – delicate matter, but among the fine particles is present and sufficiently many particles of information close to the grave. When the True Ego is immersed in this flow, it experiences a shock.
There are two types of meditation. One type can satisfy the desire, for example, to expand the subconscious. Other – destroys information in the astral world through the practice of penance and the accumulation of merit. If you practice the second type of meditation (which also clears the subconscious mind), your shock will be weak. It can not be. Assume that when you die, you have not had a shock after the death. This will give you a definite advantage.
One advantage is that you'll be able to perceive the events as they are. The second advantage is that you will be able to bring along the knowledge gained in this life, in the next life. For example, you have learned the importance of light, meditative experience, visions. This information will be very useful in the world after death. Possessing this knowledge, you do not make mistakes in the process of reincarnation.